#metoo campaign: Kolkata Police 'stand by sexual harassment victims'

Alyssa Milano on Twitter:

The "Me Too" movement continues to bring more stories to the front lines and now we're all paying attention. This is an issue I have been researching for over a decade. Also sadly predictable were some men who tried to dismiss the crushing weight of the stories by saying 'stop villianising men', 'why are women making this about themselves' and 'you're so judgemental about men'. The backlash to Twitter's temporary silencing of McGowan led to a daylong Twitter boycott by women - and some men - Friday. Now that I realise this could be taken the wrong way, I think I could have unknowingly harassed someone. I am continuously amazed at men's ability to co-opt anything and make it about their struggle. Men need to become bystanders, you know the "It's On Us" campaign that was created under the Obama administration really encouraged people to recognize the significance of supportive voices.

The bigger question is: What difference has it made to the men listening in?

The center has helped more than 1,100 victims so far this year.

Sexual violence isn't something that happens rarely. From purity codes to sheltering us at home, our womanhood has been used as a justification for abuse and marginalization. And he was elected after a recording of his lewd conversation with a T.V. personality about the way he treated women went public during the campaign season. This is due to a multitude of reasons including shame, stigma, fear of retaliation, or the expectation that they won't be believed.

For the past year, we have spoken with alleged victims.

But now, while people are expressing support and admiration for the women who came forward, some want to shift the focus from the typical victims of sexual assault - women - to its typical perpetrators - men.

The #metoo movement on social media is continuing to gain traction. While it would be disingenuous to call this victim blaming, per se, it is certainly burdening the oppressed with the responsibility of changing the world.

We can't stop sexual violence until we understand how very mundane it is. It should not be incumbent upon women, fictional or otherwise, to be stronger, and prove they deserve respect, as if strength, conceived of (rightly or wrongly) as inherently masculine, is the only quality deserving respect.

Social media is being blown up not only with women speaking of their experiences, but also with men speaking up for the women who have suffered.

The most high-profile sexual harassment scandal in tech involves Uber, the once high-flying ride-hailing startup whose co-founder and CEO, Travis Kalanick, resigned from the top spot in June. It requires all of us to call out sexism and to challenge inequality in our daily lives. They expressedremorse at their attitude and vowed to do better, as a response to women posting with #MeToo. We need to listen with an open and compassionate heart rather than a defensive #notallmen response. I want to warn her about these dangers not only in an attempt to keep her safe, but also so that when she encounters harassment (or God forbid, assault), she'll never once think it was her fault. There is really no excuse for this behaviour.

The #MeToo campaign has provided women with a vital, shared safe space. He wanted boobs, we wanted cash. Some men have already started such discussions with #HowIWillChange or #IDidIt, calling for men to share how they will help tackle the culture of sexual harassment.

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